Once, I went to a café along with my friends. It was different from the other places I had been to. I was attracted to it because there was a sign saying “No Wi-Fi zone, please interact with friends live”. During our time there, we never touched our mobile phones for using the internet like we used to do most of the time, and we felt so good. Nowadays, we expect more from technology and less from each other. We are so addicted to it that we hardly take out time for each other. The use of technology, mobile phones and the internet is subtly shattering the meaning of interaction and cutting us off from the world around us. Those were the days when we used to find out a friend’s whereabouts by looking for the bicycle at the parking lot. Now, the times have changed. We know them by their online check-in. We used to go to their homes to meet them. Now we don’t have the time, and we just call or text.
Even at home, we are hooked on the internet so much that we don’t have time for a real conversation. Texting offers just the right amount of access, not too close or too far. It’s good for those people who enjoy the comfort of being in touch with many people, and at the same time, keeping them at a certain distance. It’s like you have many flowers in your garden, but you can touch and feel only a few. In fact, technology and excessive addiction to it is making us lonely. There is a saying that technology proposes itself as the architect of our intimacies. As we are distributing ourselves, there is a risk that we may abandon ourselves. The real worth of talking to people face-to-face can’t be replaced by talking online. Real conversations and connections are precious assets. The feeling of a smile, sadness and happiness can’t be felt by the symbols inserted in the messages sent online. Real conversations are valuable in every relation and circle.
People can easily fool you online, but it needs guts to do so in a real conversation. Nowadays, people cheat others online. Online love is also popular these days, but its worth can’t be guaranteed. A friend of mine has more than 2,000 friends on Facebook. No doubt, she receives many likes on her posts and photos. When I asked her, “Do you know all of them?” She said, “No.” She has only very few friends whom she can trust. The tragedy is that most people spend a lot of time engaging in online conversations with people they don’t even know and neglect their real friends. We need to find real relations and not only prioritise the online ones. We need to prioritise the quality of our online connection, not only the quality.